Phone conversations when dating
However, as time went by, I started to avoid phone conversations.
Going from emails right to first dates was where I found the most success.
The first time I ever received a text message was about five years ago. "Um, no." "Well, let me teach you," he said enthusiastically. " By the time I took my phone out of my purse, he was able to take it from me, press a few buttons and show me the text he'd just sent me.
It was from a 30 year old guy who I'd met a couple hours earlier at a get together of a mutual friend. It read, "It's Will." He then leaned in really close (which was sexy) and showed me how to return the text.
), so excited to find out if my new man had left a message. A lot of divorced people have kids, so who is going to sit and talk to their new guy on the phone? But I have to say, part of me misses those long, meaningless conversations late at night, both sitting there not having anything to say but not wanting to get off the phone. In a real conversation, one that doesn't involve emoticons, like smiley faces, hearts and tear drops, and chat acronyms like LOL, 2NTE, H&K, or KOTL (kiss on the lips), men and women are so much more authentic.
Of course, it's always important to make a good first impression.
He walked me to my car and asked me if I'd like to get together for dinner some time. By the look on my face, I could tell he realized this. From that moment forward, I was cast into the world of dating in the electronic era.
Pretty much in shock that he was interested in me, a 41-year-old divorced single mom of two young kids, my voice was shaking when I answered, "Okay." He asked me for my number and as I was saying it, he was punching it into his mobile address book. I dated Will for about four months, and during that time, I don't think we ever spoke on the phone. Every date was arranged via text, and when he just wanted to reach out to say hi, see how my day was, or say something really cute, he would send one, causing my knees to buckle and my heart to pound furiously. At least now, if you meet a guy and he doesn't call you, you know right away because you have your cell phone attached to your body at all times!
I still get a happy feeling and a smile when I see a text pop up from him.
Jackie Pilossoph is the author of the blog, Divorced Girl Smiling.